Happy Mid-week !!!
In today’s post I’ll be talking about my experiences in learning why you are not everyone’s cup of tea, and sharing why it’s perfectly okay to not be.
I have not been liked by many in my lifetime ,I have been judged,I have been labelled and so on.Certainly those are not my family ,not even my extended family…But definitely friends,colleagues ,neighbors and every possible relationship in this society.
At some point of time we desperately want everyone to like us and literally force ourselves to be something which we are not.I am not an exception.I think we all could honestly admit that there have been times in our lives that we’ve changed our looks, interests, or behavior in an attempt to make someone like us.The feeling of being accepted by the larger audience is quite natural.
Despite our best efforts there will always be people out there who don’t like us.The world is full of people who,no matter what you do,no matter what you try,will not like you.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the past several years, it’s that life is way too short to spend time worrying about those out there who don’t like you and fixating on the reasons as to why they don’t like you.
You cannot be everyone’s cup of tea and you shouldn’t try to be.
You are not for them and they are not for you.
You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.
Let’s analyse the literal meaning of “Cup of Tea”
Being a tea lover,I got fine taste in choosing tea and i do experiment as well…
We Indians love our tea with milk(Dudh wali chai) ,then there is Masala tea,Ginger tea and blah blah …Then to match the international standard,we are catching up with Green tea,Yellow tea,Earl grey tea,Oolong tea,Chamomile tea,Rose petal tea……. Huh !!! the list is long.
What if,among all these in the list you don’t find anything interesting ??? Is it making them less of a tea ???
You may be a coffee person or you may prefer caffeine in any other form.
So the borderline is, try to recall your childhood when any guest used to come to your place and your mom used to ask,”Bhai sahab,Chai lenge?” (Would you mind having tea?) and he says,Nahi Bhabi ji,Hum chai nahi pite (Sorry,I don’t like tea)
Simple !!! Ain’t it ?
Let’s de-clutter the things in your life as well.Don’t waste your time on those people. You are not their cup of tea.
Learning to let go of the need to impress others who don’t like you is one of the most freeing things you can do for self-growth and self-improvement. Be strong and when enough is enough,don’t let anyone invalidate or minimize how you feel.
No one else sees through your eyes.No one else live in your body.No one else has lived through your experiences.
And so,no one else has the right to dictate or judge how you feel.Take the stand for authenticity and openness.To be yourself is to be free.
You are unique and there are people who love your uniqueness and love you for your amazing self.Stop wasting your time trying to convince everyone to drink your cup of tea, when they don’t even drink tea.
I refuse to waste my time worrying about how to please people to be in their good books.And those that aren’t, well- they’re not the ones that really mattered to begin with.
I’d love to hear from you, if you can relate to this topic.
Hi! I am Anushree Dash…
1 Part Entrepreneur
2 Parts Writer
3 Parts Social reformer
4 Parts explorer
5 Parts photographer, Too many Parts.
A free-spirited,non-conformist,,impenitent,independent,adventurous,boho soul and an admirer of life. Loves my Indian roots, Culture, Aesthetic Living, Saree, Poetry …