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Your fear of failure and you

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Staying within my comfort zone,getting upset when I failed,keeping my failures a secret -I have done it all.I am sure all of us must have gone through this phase.The only difference is that few are afraid of failure and few embrace it like long lost friend.Failure is not the end and it’s not the ultimate defeat.And i have realized one thing,your fear needs you to survive.

 

They say failure is harder to define.What is your definition of failure? Giving up? Never going after your goals? Not achieving the desired outcome? Not achieving the desired outcome within an expected timeline?

 

While I don’t care about anyone’s opinions when it comes to my personal life, there is also nothing in my life thus far that I look back on and think, “oh! I failed at it.” What if ???

 

I prefer asking these questions to myself:

What did I learn from this situation?
How can I grow as a person from this experience?

 

Everything I do, I take it as an experience. I have come to realize that knowingly-or-unknowingly, I enjoy collecting varied experiences, and challenges.Experiences because it helps you grow and it makes you a better storyteller.And challenges,because without it you can never experiment with your own abilities and access your true value. I have one life, so why fear failure?

 

I would like to believe that I am not in this world to hold myself back neither my mistakes.Mistakes are not so bad after all.In fact, whenever an opportunity has presented itself, I have never ever thought, “what if I fail?”.If something seems fun and attracts my attention (even if it is challenging), I jump in blind.If that’s what is called risk,I won’t mind taking that every time. Once something appeals to me, I straight away say, “Yes!”.I do not have the fear of judgement or of failing.I have understood what works for me and what does not. Neither do I have the fear of trying something new as long as it is within the parameters of my principles and personality.

 

Everyday while writing my story,I ask myself:

  • Am I scared of trying new things?
  • Do I fear entering the unknown?
  • Do I fear of being judged?
  • Do I fear of being alone?

And surprisingly the answer is “No” in most of the cases or rather in all the cases.

 

I measure the pros and cons.I believe in ethical and un-ethical.I am not an over-thinker and am quite decisive.I don’t get tangled with logical and illogical because these are subjective and differs with person,situation and life stages. I never allow fear of failure to stand between me and my goals.

Instead of talking myself out of the fear by hoping that nothing negative would happen, i always focus on building confidence to deal with the consequences.How well you handle them and how quickly you move on makes the difference.Ultimately, what makes us fearless is not the fact that we do not experience fear, but that we are confident that we can deal with the consequences of our actions. That’s what makes people fearless and that’s what could help you become immune to fear of failure as well.

 

There is a tomorrow:

What if not today,there is always a tomorrow where I can again try.Each page adds to a chapter in my life until I close it and start a new one.Somehow, somewhere along the way, I have learned to “unlearn” the lesson to fear failure.Somewhere inside there’s a “you” that has absolutely zero fear of failure and wants to try to do everything.Understanding that “YOU” might be difficult but not impossible.I believe once you access that brave little person ,you can achieve anything.

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They Call Me Nari

Hi! I am Anushree Dash… Freethinker,
1 Part Entrepreneur
2 Parts Blogger
3 Parts photographer
4 Parts explorer, Too many Parts. A free-spirited,non-conformist,independent,adventurous,boho soul and an admirer of life.Loves my Indian roots, Culture, Aesthetic Living, Saree, Poetry …